Happily Ever Ashley
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One of my favorite table designs from this year was created when we had to choose one of the elements (earth, wind, water or fire) for a table design at @brighteventrentals open house. We chose earth. We wanted it to be elegant but showcase the beauty of all Mother Earth has to offer. We got to get a little funkier than most of our wedding clients are into. If you look closely, you’ll see @avantgardefloraldesignstudio layered different soils and rocks into the centerpiece design inside the glass vessels. I love that it looks like a peony garden is just growing out of the table! Photo by @lesleybodwellphotography
I love spaces with character! This week I’m headed to California to do a wedding for an awesome couple and you guys, it’s going to be freaking epic! You’ll want to follow @yourjubilee to see how we transform not only this space but the whole mansion into the perfect space to celebrate Tristan and Hunter’s marriage!
Is weight connected to success? I have been feeling pressure to be thinner in order to be more successful- and I hate it. In a job that has a lot to do with aesthetics, with aspirations of doing more speaking engagements, I’ve been feeling like every part of me is ready for the big dreams I have, but I’m questioning if my body will hold me back. That’s not really something you are allowed to say. In today’s world you are either supposed to be all body positivity or ashamed that you have some extra cushion. You aren’t suppose to say that you love yourself and everything your body does for you, but struggle with trying to lose weight. Because people question how you can have self love and also want to be thinner. You aren’t suppose to say that you have a lot of emotional shit floating around your brain that triggers you to eat. I hate that there is a piece of me that questions if I am perceived as lazy because of my weight. Am I perceived as unorganized, less smart, less capable. Do people make assumptions about my strength both mentally and physically? If all of these thoughts are true, does that make me want to prove people wrong or conform by trying harder to lose weight? I believe in self love. I believe in giving yourself grace but also trying to do what’s best for yourself mentally and physically. That includes eating healthy foods in moderation and being physically active. But as I’ve gotten older it feels like the only way for me to lose weight is to devote a significant portion of my day to prepping food, working out and monitoring everything I intake. And I’m challenged to find the time and/or the money that weight loss now seems to require. Also weight loss totally fucks with my self worth. You’d think that losing weight would make me feel good, but instead it makes me anxious. It makes me feel like my worth is solely tied to the way I look. It makes me question everything I know to be true about myself as if the weight is armor I’m shedding and the thinner me is exposed to all the pain and self doubt I’ve worked so hard to overcome. So I’m trying to decide who I want to be and what’s important to me. I’ll let you know where I land.
It’s not all pretty things, this wedding planner life is a lot of long days, expectation and personality management and seasons of nonstop action.... but we love it! Which is why @sheriffmeagan and I are so honored that our team was nominated for @bestofourvalley . If you can spare a minute, click the link in my profile and give us a vote!
@yourjubilee was nominated for #bestofourvalley ! It would mean the world to me if you would vote for us! You can vote once a day until Nov. 30th. Link to vote in my profile! 🥰 @bestofourvalley
THRIVE- my word of the year. Even though the first two definitions of the word definitely apply to my goals for this year, the third definition is the one that truly speaks to me. I have spent a long time healing my emotional wounds and learned that those breaks have made me stronger and more ready to crush all the goals I have for myself, my business and my community. I’m not seeking perfection, I’m seeking progress.