Typically I don’t engage in issue debates on Facebook. Last week, I read a post about a segment on the Today Show. You can watch the segment and read the article here. My feelings about the post and the conversation that ensued has stuck with me for a few days so I decided to write about it.
Now, I want to say that I believe everyone has a right to their opinion. I am not trying to call this woman out or make anyone else “mad” at her. I typically try my best to understand a persons opinion, but in this case, I think there is a bigger issue.
The woman that posted about the segment was disturbed that “curvy” women were being promoted. She believed that the show was telling the country that “feeling good” about yourself is more important than the risks of obesity. She also seemed irritated that the show “slammed” those that are skinny and go to the gym and are not plus sized. She also discussed plus sized women being applauded for wearing skimpy clothing and “skinny” girls being judged for it. Her main concern was promoting health over obesity.
“Strong is the new skinny. As women, we can’t always just choose to be skinny, but we can choose to be strong by fueling our bodies with vitamin rich foods, regular exercise and a healthy body image. As far as wearing revealing clothing, I applaud women for wearing what they are comfortable in. At the end of the day, “slutty” is slutty no matter the size on the tag. Ultimately, take care of the body that you have as best you can and be confident with it. It’s the only one you’ve got.”
I wrote this before watching the clip. Since watching it, I feel even more passionate about my statement. Wouldn’t it be nice if we were all born with great metabolisms and “skinny” genes? (No, I don’t mean denim!) I apologize if I go on a little bit of a rant here, but these are my thoughts.
1. Yes, obesity is a HUGE (pun intended) problem. Yes, we should all do everything we can to eat healthy and stay active. But, was the Today Show promoting obesity? Absolutely not. In fact, when I tried to find the clip, I went to their health page. There was nothing except articles encouraging healthy eating and ways to maintain a healthy active lifestyle. So I checked the Style page. Ah-ha! This was not a health story at all. The woman never encourages women to be “fat” or unhealthy. She mentions she is on her own journey of health. No one should strive to be “fat”, but if you have extra junk in the trunk, you can be on a journey to health while still loving your body. Think how much more you’ll love it if you drop a few lbs!
2. The woman featured is a plus-sized fashion blogger. She is not wearing a skimpy bathing suit. It is a high-waisted two piece with ample coverage of the girls and the goods. None of the women photographed were wearing “skimpy” things at all. Like I said I applaud women for being so comfortable in their skin that they can wear floss and a couple of “titty-tassels”. I can’t even imagine having that enough confidence or exhibitionism to pull that off, no matter the size of my clothes.
3. As a women, there is a lot of pressure to have and maintain a perfect body. But my perfect, is not your perfect. I am always sad when I see a woman that doesn’t feel she can be completely herself because she isn’t comfortable with the shell she lives in (thin or curvy). I have felt uncomfortable in my body at both 120 pounds and 220 pounds. Even just typing those numbers makes me uncomfortable. I try everyday to be comfortable in my own skin and make the most of it. Some days I falter and eat like crap or don’t go to the gym. Some days I feel great. It’s a constant struggle.
4. The Today show never slammed “skinny” girls that go to the gym. In fact, it encouraged being healthy, but health doesn’t look the same on every body. You can be physically fit and still be a large girl.
Please don’t misunderstand me. I think being healthy is a lifestyle that requires nutritious eating, daily activity and equally important, a healthy self image. Every day the media is talking about who has “gotten fat” and who is “too skinny”. This runs over into our daily lives and we make it a habit to decide who is “fat” or “too skinny”. Why?
I try my best to not judge a woman’s body thin or curvy. I think loving your body is hard enough without other peoples opinions weighing in on it. In the end, my response remain, “Women can’t always choose to be skinny, but they can choose to be strong (healthy).”
Lets all choose to be healthy and support each other on our quest, instead of judging curvy or thin women for feeling good in their own skin.